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Web Roundup: Engagement Ring Etiquette, Etsy & Easter

This week’s post brought to you by indignance. I would say “irateness” but a. I’m not sure if that’s a word and b. these are strangers. I need to reserve my spiciness for personal affronts. Nonetheless, I’m kicking off web roundup with the bad news first (so the good news can cheer you up!) That’s how I’ve always done it. The good news/bad news thing, not web roundup. Web Roundup is usually a place for butterflies and bunny rabbits which we’ll get to, because it’s Easter weekend. But first: the wrath of D&D.

W. T. Actual. F. Etsy Vendor! You shall remain nameless (until this click through.) However, you get a slap on each wrist for allowing Tech Crunch to write the sensationalist headline “Buying an Engagement Ring Online Spoiled the Surprise.” There’s got to be a better way (perhaps numerical?) to designate reserved listings. Or just mark them as sold and note who the customer is, you know, offline. That being said, the cardinal rule of #hinting is to not follow up. The laws of engagement ring wish listing are simple and finite: do not check to see if your dream ring was sold. I didn’t even go on the side of the showroom with the bridal cases for the last three months before I got engaged. I certainly didn’t check the online listing (hard, because it’s part of my job). If I can avoid that kind of temptation, so must you, hopeful brides. And if it really needs to be said: no, buying an engagement ring online won’t ruin the surprise. If you don’t inadvertently ruin it your own self.

This guy. Ohhhoooo this guy. He’s an interminable d-baguette, no doubt, but I always relish an opportunity for the civilized debate of broken engagement etiquette. The only correct answer is: consult your state law or an attorney. It varies across the US, and there’s no hard and fast rule based on decency i.e. “Thou who called off the wedding shalt not keep the rock.” Typically, An engagement ring is largely considered a “conditional gift” given in good faith that the engagement will result in a marriage. If the marriage never happens, the conditional gift legally should be returned. However, some states contend that if groomy broke off the wedding, he doesn’t get the bauble back. Although some brides have been known to turn profit and sell the engagement ring, they might be forced to pay back the cash value if things get nasty/litigious. I tend to think that no matter who called it off, the ring should be given back to the giver. Especially if it was a family heirloom. Either way, I’d feel weird juju about keeping it. This girl though? Take the money and RUN honey, especially since you’re well within your legal rights. Use it for a celebratory trip to thank the LAWD you didn’t marry that schmuck.

Ok, now onto the fluffy stuff. but no Peeps. I hate Peeps. Give me a Reese’s Egg any day.

If this doesn’t scream easter IDK what does.

Yes, I’m aware I linked to a Lilly Pulitzer dress last week also. What of it? I might have a Lilly problem. And that problem is that there’s no Lilly store in Chicago (how did I get here?!) Picking up something in this foxy pattern, in honor of Ruby the foxy puppy, next time in in Boca.

Finally, This should come in handy this weekend. And every weekend.

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Engagement Ring Eye Candy: Large & In Charge

This week’s engagement ring eye candy has me craving a super size helping of rocks. Luckily, the RLJ showcase is fully stocked with colorful diamond delicacies like so many truffles at Godiva. And this week, we added quite a few new hefty engagement rings with large center stones. With great carat comes great responsibility (to share the blingy gorgeousness far and wide) so it’s my duty and pleasure to introduce you to a few of our new beauties and help these lovely sparklers find a new home.

Cushion Cut Fancy yellow Halo

18k White Gold Fancy Yellow Cushion Cut Diamond Engagement Ring

It’s my personal opinion that the best cushion cut diamond is one over three carats. And no, it’s not because I’m blinded by bling-size (for instance, I think the ideal size for a round brilliant is no larger than 2.5 carats.) I just feel that a cushion cut really shines when its center is bulging, its proportions are balanced, and it’s large enough to display the unique shape that separates it from square & rectangular cuts. Luckily, our newest cushion cut is 4.31 carats, placing it firmly in the B.A.D. category. It’s also yellow (!) which I know is not for everyone, but bear with me because it’s not the only yellow this week. This one features a gorgeous halo setting & microwave split shank.

Fancy Yellow Pear Shaped Halo

18k White Gold Pear Shape Fancy Yellow Diamond Halo Engagement Ring

Another huge, yellow diamond, this pear shape is a warm, buttery yellow and is a whopping 6.05 carats. Like the one above, it’s surrounded by a gorgeous white diamond halo. However, the simple, thin microwave band is the perfect foil to the rather voluptuous center diamond. The setting is 18kt white gold, but the yellow gold prongs on the center diamond blend flawlessly into the diamond so that all you see on this ring are, well, diamonds.

9.03ct radiant cut halo

EGL Certified 9.03ct Radiant Cut Diamond Engagement Ring

Onto the white diamonds. First up, a radiant cut that would make Beyonce look twice. In fact, this ring reminds me a lot of Beyonce’s engagement ring. Ours isn’t a Lorraine Schwartz original, and with an SI2 clarity grade it’s not quite *flawless*, but it woke up like this. Ok I’ll stop. It’s a massive 9.03 carats but doesn’t stop there – it features an additional 2.06 carats of accent diamonds. Of course, plenty of that weight comes from the halo around the center stone, but if you check out the bedazzled split shank setting, you’ll see that two tapered baguettes and two emerald cuts are nestled in there. So there’s no doubt that this rock shines from all angles.

Three stone emerald cut engagement ring with trapezoids

Platinum 4.24ctw Emerald & Trapezoid Cut Diamond Engagement Ring

Finally, my favorite. I know you’re not supposed to play favorites, but I do. Frequently. And this one is a contender! There’s nothing I love more than a three stone ring, and this style is just so classic and regal. The center stone is a 3.04 carat emerald cut (coincidentally my favorite size for an emerald cut is 3 carats exactly) and it’s a stunning VS1 clarity – like staring into a crystal clear pool. If the pool were made of diamonds. I also love the proportions on this one – it doesn’t go too vertical. But the center stone isn’t the only beauty here, two step cut trapezoids flank the side of the center stone to blend into a beautifully symmetrical, seamless profile. Smitten.

 

 

It’s Time To Talk About the C Word

Why Your Jeweler Shouldn't Use The C Word

Readers, it’s time for some real talk.

We are here today, to talk about the c-word. Clarity enhancement. Like that other c-word, it’s just as dirty when you’re not up front about it. Some women are fine with it, others appalled. But the importance lies in disclosing when you’re about to use it (you know, earmuffs, etc.)
Clarity enhancement is the jewelry industry’s dirty word. If you’re going to treat your stones, then fine, so be it. But you need to disclose up front that your customers should go into the conversation knowing that the c word is going to be used.
You would never roll up on your grandma and drop that into casual conversation! Nor should you roll up on Pinterest (your cool cousin) and (not) drop it. Because, unfortunately, the vast majority of diamond consumers and engagement ring coveters don’t know to look for it. RLJ doesn’t buy clarity-enhanced diamonds (or we try not to) because it’s confusing to consumers. We’d just rather avoid it altogether. If you’re well-versed in diamond treatments and your jeweler discloses up front that a ring has been treated, there’s nothing wrong with clarity enhancement. It’s a great way to get a great deal on a good looking diamond – but it most certainly affects a diamond’s value and you should always know what you’re paying for.
Clarity enhancement refers to several treatments a diamond might undergo to -you guessed it- enhance its clarity grade.  Common treatments include laser drilling or fracture filling. To fill fractures, a tiny amount of glass material is introduced into super-thin crevices and fractures (aka feathers). Laser drilling is meant to zap away inclusions, much like unwanted body hair. It doesn’t affect the other characteristics of a diamond, like its carat weight or color. GIA has concluded that for normal wear, clarity enhanced diamonds are durable, but may be more susceptible to high heat, pressure or corrosive materials. So, you know, don’t stick your clarity enhanced diamond in a vat of acid (don’t do that with an untreated diamond either.)
So, the c-word makes a statement about a diamond A big one. Maybe you’re cool with it. Maybe it offends you to your core. Either way. You have the right to know that’s its use is imminent. So avert your eyes, your wallets, and your ears if you’re so inclined, but don’t fall for something that seems too good to be true. A $10k-plus “discount” on a diamond doesn’t suggest wholesale pricing. This particular dealer isn’t acting charitably by giving you access to trade price structure, they’re usually selling treated diamonds. It’s up to them, as reputable sellers, to let you know. but it’s up to you, the one parting with hard-earned cash, to be a savvy, well-versed customer. So if you feel violated by use of the c-word, tell that dealer to wash their mouth out with soap and turn heel away from their shop.

4 Cute Ways To Announce Your Engagement

“WE’RE ENGAGED!!!” It’s the text/snapchat/Facebook post everyone hopes to receive from their long-term relationship-bound bestie. But what if you’re the bestie? What if it’s your sparkly new ring on that very important finger? Chances are you’ve had a secret Pinterest board for quite some time now (no shade, just jealousy. I had to preemptively-pin in public like some sort of animal.) Chances are you have a pretty definitive seasonally-dependent line up of possible color schemes. Chances are you know damn well which flowers are verboten from all arrangements. What I’m saying is, you’ve already started to put some thought into your wedding – put some thought into all the goodness leading up to it! You only get one shot at getting/being engaged and married (well, ideally) so live it up! Enjoy every minute – ok maybe not those minutes you spend freaking out over ridiculousness like cake filling flavors or escort cards. But do enjoy the precious moments of sharing this joyful time with loved ones. Especially your engagement announcement. Gone are the days of impeccably worded newspaper announcements. And even Charlotte York’s NYT wedding section obsession is now a thing of ancient history. But listen lady, you can do better than an emoji filled status update. I believe in you. Save the autocorrect for the select texts you can’t wait to send, then put your phone down, bask in the glow of your newly engaged status – not your FB one. Then select your favorite of these cute ways to announce your engagement.

Cute Engagement Announcement Idea

via the abyss of Tumblr. If you have a real source, holla.

Alright, you’ve got the ring, let the socially acceptable designer shoe shopping consumption BEGIN! Just kidding. Please be responsible with your wedding budget and do not spend it all on expensive footwear (although you already know how I feel about that subject). However if you do happen to have a pair of Valentino’s lying around (or any pair of cute shoes for that matter) – how sweet is this photo idea? And perfect for the truly girly-girl who has been dreaming of her wedding day forever.

Engagement Portrait that your friends & family will actually want to keep

via Pinterest

It’s rare that I read some long comment on a Pin I actually agree with. Typically I’m wondering if this DIY pink lemonade dish soap is going to break my dishwasher or why anyone would put that much effort into Elf on the Shelf. But this Pinner brought up a good point: smoochy pic engagement announcements are sweet, but your friends and family love you, know you, and want to cherish this time in your life too. They’d probably rather not do so with a snapshot of you two sucking face (that’s what the first kiss is for!) Give them a beautiful portrait they can both leave on their fridge for 2 years after your actual wedding and scrapbook.

Introducing Us: cute engagement announcement

via Introducing Us

If you’d rather take things digital, please please please for the love of G_D use this idea so I can live vicariously through you. I’m so upset this didn’t exist when I got engaged! Intorducing Us is a service that lets you create a relationship timeline that culminates in an engagement announcement (and Save the Date if you so choose.) It allows all of us to become Jess & Russ, regardless of any graphic design skills or cleverness. And it is so.cute.

Ring pic engagement announcement

If you do elect to share the happy news via The ‘Gram, please take care to include your intended in your ring pic! He’s spent a considerable amount of time agonizing over the perfect ring for you (trust me, you have no clue how many times I had to assure him that “halo” can mean both pave and micropave). Give that man some credit & show off his sweet face!

Web Roundup: My Brain Has Too Many Tabs Open

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TGIF ya’ll! Welcome to your weekend, I hope you squeeze in all the Farmer’s Marketing/Game Night/Home Depoting/Bottle Popping/Sleeping In you desire. I’ll be doing some spring cleaning (way better than it sounds, I’m a Virgo & it’s like a day at the spa for me). I’ll also be embracing Mars’ retrograde by continuing my 2014 habit of re-reading old book favorites. I’m also hoping to vacuum seal all of our winter coats into storage but it’s probably too premature for that :( But, a nice productive/relaxing weekend is calling my name after last weekend’s St. Paddy’s festivities! And this week was a busy one in my sparkly little slice of the web. I…

Realized my bad habit of having 60 tabs open at once might not just be an internet issue.

Coveted the Cartier Ballon Bird.

Asked Lee to sneak a picture of the famous guy sitting behind him on his flight to LA so I could determine who it was. He eventually asked another passenger, and the guy was JOHN LEGEND. Yes, I asked if my spirit animal Chrissy Teigen was with him, no, she wasn’t, and no, Lee would not agree to ask him for pics/offer him free jewelry in exchange for me meeting her.

Swooned over this VCA catalog on Flipboard. I forgot I even had Flipboard!

Don’t know how to skateboard but I’d learn if I had THIS.

Said: “Oooooooh snap.” The gauntlet has been THROWN. #DRAma

Took Ruby on an extra long walk because it was gorgeous out. We window shopped all her favorite stores on Oak Street, namely Hermes, Graff, Harry Winston and Trabert & Hoeffer. She did try to run into Armani but I ruined her fun.

Laughed, fist pumped and amen-ed Becky’s Pinterest Board.

Became obsessed with the Bridesmaid Ask. I’m so happy it’s becoming A Thing, and think it’s even better than a bridal luncheon closer to the actual wedding.